First if you haven't read the article and watched the video, please do so BEFORE you continue reading my response. The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely
Welcome back... I can really sum my response up in 1 phrase.
"Faith without works is dead." James 2: 14 – 26Ok, I'll go a little further. My last blog post was about not blaming women for being victims. (I am about to completely contradict that. Sorry.) If you look into the "Stats that were posted in the article, 55% of Black Americans interpret scripture literally.<<< HUGE problem!!! First you can't "interpret something literally." Because if you take something literally, its not an interpretation... This to me is the biggest issue as to why black women who attend black churches are single, their interpretation of the scriptures. If you read the Bible cover to cover and take everything literally, you'd be in jail before you finished reading the Old Testament. No explanation necessary. Now, to touch on the video of Pastor Ken Patterson, 1 thing he said is that women should strive to be the Wife in Proverbs 31. I agree, however, not even the prophets of the Bible (Not even Jesus Christ,) were perfect so why should women of today be held to a different standard??? But on the flip side, are there any women closer to that woman than our strong Black women??? If the stats prove anything, they prove this with almost 87% of them claiming a religious affiliation.
"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Proverbs 31: 26 - 30
Again, since you’ve read this whole thing, I know you have a comment. Whether you agree or disagree, I’d love to hear from you. Leave it hear or you can email me at basimthedream@gmail.com. Thanks for lending me your mind for a few seconds.
what do a woman do when she's been really hurted, emotionally bruised and feels like there is no meaning of love Bas? been single for a while, tried the dating thing again and i feel like THERE IS NO MAN ON THIS EARTH THAT I CAN SEE MYSELF WITH but the man that i left 3yrs ago (yeah the same one that hurted me so bad). i am so tired of men saying that women are too angry and nasty towards them because we grew up without a father figure or just don't know how to treat a man. what is your thought on that?
ReplyDeleteThis a subject for another blog. But to answer your question, in my opinion, NO man should have that much power over you. I understand you've been hurt but at some point you have to move on with life. You are blocking your blessings because you're morning over a loss that may have been the smaller part of what transpired when the 2 of you parted ways. Right now, in your current state of mind you aren't in any shape to get into a relationship. I recommend you focus on learning you and what you like and how to love you for you. Don't make the mistake of defining yourself based on goals you've set because you may never reach them. instead love you for who you were, who you are, and who you may grow to be.
ReplyDeleteI also recommend you read the book and go see the movie "Eat. Love. Pray." It'll give you a great perspective on finding yourself before you find a mate.